Quality not quantity revisited
Dec. 6th, 2003 08:23 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
growler_south- Im sorry
-Thats okay, you can be as sorry as you like, doesnt make any difference to me
If I had to put sex on a 1-10 scale there would be a few clear waypoints.
10- respectful, loving sex with a valued partner. Both (or more?) parties derive enjoyment from, and are utterly committed to, the other parties' pleasure.
5- good sex, where both parties enjoy themselves.
3- nasty sex, both parties are out to use the other for their own pleasure or to achieve revenge.
1- rape.
- I said no! no more!
- But its so nice, I know you love it.
I have a few good friends with whom i enjoy sex in the 8-10 range (sometimes edging towards an 11 with one particular couple) and to be perfectly honest I dont think ive ever had anything below a 5- even the most casual shag in the woods with a moderately unattractive and quite unskilled gentleman (dont ask) rated a 5.
- Come over and fuck me, i need to be fucked
- Okay but Im not in the mood to be fucked myself.
- Come over now, I want it.
Well all that just changed. I was just unlucky enough to participate in sex that easily ranks a 2. This was cruel and nasty sex with deep-seated issues of control and manipulation, domination and revenge. It wasnt pleasant. Not the slightest hint of respect or caring. "No" apparently meant "maybe not but keep trying" The attempted manipulation and domination was heartbreaking.
- Get your hand out of there, its sore.
- *shove* Yeah?
I was never in any danger, but the situation had me wound up to within a fraction of doing some serious damage to the bastard. That #####'s head is still spherical is a miracle of self-control, I was within a fraction of installing my fingers into his temple.
-You can trust me, I'll be gentle now
-Be gentle on someone else
Ah the dangers of casual sex. I hereby renounce casual sex as I define it- IE sex with someone I dont know well enough to respect. Sex IS special- perhaps not as sacred as the religious right would have us believe, but something so intimate and positive should not be used as a vehicle of control. I have the joyous privelige of occasionally participating in some of the best, most intimate sex Ive ever experienced, and while i'm single that's enough for me. Quality over quantity wins again.
Well now my mind feels clean, im going to go and boil my cock in sulphuric acid.
-Thats okay, you can be as sorry as you like, doesnt make any difference to me
If I had to put sex on a 1-10 scale there would be a few clear waypoints.
10- respectful, loving sex with a valued partner. Both (or more?) parties derive enjoyment from, and are utterly committed to, the other parties' pleasure.
5- good sex, where both parties enjoy themselves.
3- nasty sex, both parties are out to use the other for their own pleasure or to achieve revenge.
1- rape.
- I said no! no more!
- But its so nice, I know you love it.
I have a few good friends with whom i enjoy sex in the 8-10 range (sometimes edging towards an 11 with one particular couple) and to be perfectly honest I dont think ive ever had anything below a 5- even the most casual shag in the woods with a moderately unattractive and quite unskilled gentleman (dont ask) rated a 5.
- Come over and fuck me, i need to be fucked
- Okay but Im not in the mood to be fucked myself.
- Come over now, I want it.
Well all that just changed. I was just unlucky enough to participate in sex that easily ranks a 2. This was cruel and nasty sex with deep-seated issues of control and manipulation, domination and revenge. It wasnt pleasant. Not the slightest hint of respect or caring. "No" apparently meant "maybe not but keep trying" The attempted manipulation and domination was heartbreaking.
- Get your hand out of there, its sore.
- *shove* Yeah?
I was never in any danger, but the situation had me wound up to within a fraction of doing some serious damage to the bastard. That #####'s head is still spherical is a miracle of self-control, I was within a fraction of installing my fingers into his temple.
-You can trust me, I'll be gentle now
-Be gentle on someone else
Ah the dangers of casual sex. I hereby renounce casual sex as I define it- IE sex with someone I dont know well enough to respect. Sex IS special- perhaps not as sacred as the religious right would have us believe, but something so intimate and positive should not be used as a vehicle of control. I have the joyous privelige of occasionally participating in some of the best, most intimate sex Ive ever experienced, and while i'm single that's enough for me. Quality over quantity wins again.
Well now my mind feels clean, im going to go and boil my cock in sulphuric acid.
