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growler_south) wrote2008-06-02 11:20 pm
growler_south) wrote2008-06-02 11:20 pm
Just cogs turning...
I was just ruminating, taking notes, when this popped out:
Dominance in the bedroom is akin to abuse: you give them something they need, whether they agree with you at the time or not.
In the end they come to crave it, needing it to explore the shameful submissive part of their psyche.
That is our role as dominants: to bring a simpler, more introspective perspective to our charges' lives. To show them it's ok to be submissive, even if they don't get it at first. To care for their development and help them to be nothing less than the most wonderful selves they can be.
That is why I say it is akin to abuse. For without an abuser, how can a man explore the depths of his submissive victimhood?
Talk about off on a tanget! but still, I like it as a piece of writing that resonates with me. ;-)
Dominance in the bedroom is akin to abuse: you give them something they need, whether they agree with you at the time or not.
In the end they come to crave it, needing it to explore the shameful submissive part of their psyche.
That is our role as dominants: to bring a simpler, more introspective perspective to our charges' lives. To show them it's ok to be submissive, even if they don't get it at first. To care for their development and help them to be nothing less than the most wonderful selves they can be.
That is why I say it is akin to abuse. For without an abuser, how can a man explore the depths of his submissive victimhood?
Talk about off on a tanget! but still, I like it as a piece of writing that resonates with me. ;-)