Just cogs turning...

[growler_south]

I was just ruminating, taking notes, when this popped out:

Dominance in the bedroom is akin to abuse: you give them something they need, whether they agree with you at the time or not.

In the end they come to crave it, needing it to explore the shameful submissive part of their psyche.

That is our role as dominants: to bring a simpler, more introspective perspective to our charges' lives. To show them it's ok to be submissive, even if they don't get it at first. To care for their development and help them to be nothing less than the most wonderful selves they can be.

That is why I say it is akin to abuse. For without an abuser, how can a man explore the depths of his submissive victimhood?

Talk about off on a tanget! but still, I like it as a piece of writing that resonates with me. ;-)

Comments

[randomcub.livejournal.com]

So you're dominant, eh?

*makes mental note*

*hardon*

[whiskerfish.livejournal.com]

the words "abuse," "shameful," and "victimhood" may inflame the more sensitive here in LJ-land.

that said, i just got the most profound anxious (good anxiety, very good!!!) twinge jolt through me.

only 45 more days. . .


*bounce*


all lower case intentional

[barbarian-rat.livejournal.com]

the words "abuse," "shameful," and "victimhood" have very shaded meanings, that depend partly on personal history and context.

Sometimes the "more sensitive" have good reason to be, other times they are just twits.

[whiskerfish.livejournal.com]

I don't remember mentioning the word twit. I'm sorry you gleaned that from between the lines. Perhaps I should have mentioned my father, aka the man who wants to have sex with me, or my cousin and his buddy who fucked my face when I was nine. Perhaps that would have lent some sort of credence to what I'd written in response to the man who will, more than likely, abuse my shameful ass while I revel in my victimhood.
Sorry if I rattled your cage.

[barbarian-rat.livejournal.com]

You didn't rattle my cage. I think you took my comment the wrong way, perhaps I could have written it better.

I didn't glean twits from between the lines of your comment. My point was that some people raise a ruckus because they can, and thus are twits. While others have good reason to be sensitive about those words and how they are used. I did feel that you were lumping the two together in your comment "the words "abuse," "shameful," and "victimhood" may inflame the more sensitive here in LJ-land." Perhaps I misunderstood.

I wasn't questioning your credence about these things.
My apologies for rattling your cage.

[broduke2000.livejournal.com]

One night, while on the air, we got a call from a teenage boy. He wanted to talk to us because he didn't trust government, and he didn't want to be kicked out of his home.

It started out with: "Is it normal for your father to have sex with you when he's drunk?"

Fortunately, it didn't go on the air, but my partner spent over an hour talking to him, consoling him, and weeping. It wasn't pretty.

*HUGS*