It seems to have a lot to do with selfishness- guys who are looking to get themselves off, to indulge their kinks and fantasies, will move on if you're not going to give them what they want.
Guys who are out to connect emotionally with someone and have a good time while theyre at it are more likely to be happy to go with the flow.
I think it depends where you go for your sex, or kinky sex in particular- in a suana, sex club, or leather bar you're going to run into lots of guys who are looking to satisfy their urges, whereas at more social venues and events you're going to come across guys who like to get to know you a bit first.
Of course this is from my experience, and explains why I dont like sex clubs any more- too many selfish guys who see you as an outlet for their kinks. And why I prefer a quiet bar or bears night- more relaxed, where theres a chance to get to know each other a bit first.
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Date: 2004-11-18 06:33 pm (UTC)Guys who are out to connect emotionally with someone and have a good time while theyre at it are more likely to be happy to go with the flow.
I think it depends where you go for your sex, or kinky sex in particular- in a suana, sex club, or leather bar you're going to run into lots of guys who are looking to satisfy their urges, whereas at more social venues and events you're going to come across guys who like to get to know you a bit first.
Of course this is from my experience, and explains why I dont like sex clubs any more- too many selfish guys who see you as an outlet for their kinks. And why I prefer a quiet bar or bears night- more relaxed, where theres a chance to get to know each other a bit first.