To whom it may concern:

[growler_south]

I hereby decree the recently-coined 'Binogamous' to be superseded by the term 'Duogamous', lest the inclusion of the prefix 'Bi-' imply a touch of bisexuality.

That is all, go about your business.

Perhaps a little clarification: last weekend we were struggling with the incongruity of using 'monogamous' to describe a sexually-exclusive 3-way relationship. We decided that the participants couldnt really be called monogamous and a new word, Binogamous, was needed.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

what the fuck are you on about

teehee

[whiskerfish.livejournal.com]

Hmmm...duogamous implies only two and though this may be more accurate for some, I find that those who stray don't just stray to one - perhaps one at a time but not one only. Maybe multogamous.
According to Thesaurus.com, multi suggests:
Definition: complex
Synonyms: advanced, complicated, delicate, elaborate, highly-developed, intricate, involved, knotty, labyrinthine, modern, multi-faceted, refined, subtle
Antonyms: naive, unsophisticated

I kind of like how "multi" suggests a kind of snootiness.

Re: teehee

[baerenjagd.livejournal.com]

What about "metronogamous"? Would this imply someone who looks monogamous for fashion's sake but isn't really?

Re: teehee

[growler-south.livejournal.com]

LOL thats awesome! twisting Metrosexual...

Re: teehee

[growler-south.livejournal.com]

Ah, but when you're in a sexually exclusive 3-way 'binogamous' is perfect...

[egbubba.livejournal.com]

Does that mean a couple who plays exclusively with only one other couple?

[growler-south.livejournal.com]

I can see you have done your homework- after all, a 4-way is the new 3-way, and 3-ways are the new single... but I was strugling for a term for an exclusive 3-way.

[egbubba.livejournal.com]

Well, OK. But what would you call it if you had...say...two couples and a long-haired biker?

[growler-south.livejournal.com]

A full house?

[baerenjagd.livejournal.com]

Hmmm... are you hinting at something here? Am I suppose to be shopping? :o)

[growler-south.livejournal.com]

Not at all! It was merely pointed out to me by one member of a sexually-exclusive triple that the 'bi' in 'binogamous' was ambiguous.

Once I get my paws on each other I doubt we'll have time for anyone else anyway... for a long while at least!

[sunsmogseahorse.livejournal.com]

That's sort of like 'hemigamous' meaning that one partner is monogamous and the other is not.

[growler-south.livejournal.com]

one partner... and the other...
Excuse me, but your preconceptions are showing ;-)

a triple requires different terms for the same concepts. Duogamous is a 'monogamous' built for three.

[debxena.livejournal.com]

You could use 'polyfidelious' - a poly term to describe a closed multi-person relationship.

[growler-south.livejournal.com]

I should have known the Polys would have a term already... thanks! :-)

[beastbriskett.livejournal.com]

Super-kali-whaaat?!?

[smellykaka.livejournal.com]

I hereby decree the recently-coined 'Binogamous' to be superseded by the term 'Duogamous', lest the inclusion of the prefix 'Bi-' imply a touch of bisexuality.

That, or implying somebody hiding behind a gap in his curtains with a pair of binoculars watching people going at it.

[furtummy.livejournal.com]

Can't you just say "doubly monogamous"?